From our April 2025 Newsletter
Children and young people – especially those who are neurodivergent – often put extraordinary effort into things that others may take for granted. Whether it’s staying in a classroom, sharing with a sibling, trying a new food, or managing overwhelming emotions, the invisible work they do every day deserves to be recognised and respected.
This resource has been created for families and professionals to help notice and affirm effort, not just outcomes. It offers practical, age-appropriate ways to celebrate persistence, bravery, self-awareness, and growth across Early Years, Primary and Secondary settings.
Our approach is rooted in the belief that praise should honour the child’s experience, build inner confidence, and foster self-understanding, rather than push for conformity or performance. By shifting our focus to what children are learning about themselves and how they engage with the world, we support their wellbeing and long-term growth.
Whether you’re a parent, carer, teacher, or support worker, we hope this guide helps you to celebrate effort in ways that are kind, authentic, and neuro-affirming.
Early Years (Aged 4 and Under)
• You tried and tried – that was a big effort.
• You did it your way. I like how you kept going.
• You waited. That can be really hard sometimes.
• You stayed calm with your busy body. Well done!
• You shared with your friend. That was kind.
• You used your words – I’m so proud of you!
• You zipped your coat all by yourself – wow!
• You helped tidy up – thank you for being helpful.
• You asked for help. That was a smart choice.
• You joined in for as long as felt right for you – it was lovely to see you!
Primary (Aged 5-11)
• You gave that your full attention for as long as you could – good effort. Well done!
• You found a way that suited your brain and stuck with it – that’s great self-awareness.
• You managed a big feeling in your own way – be proud of yourself for that.
• You stayed with it even when it a struggle – that shows determination.
• You used a tool or strategy when you needed it – that’s real progress.
• You waited, even when your body felt like moving – that’s not always easy. Well done
• You stepped away and came back when ready – that was the right thing to do for you.
• You supported someone else and still completed your own work – that’s great teamwork.
Secondary (Aged 11-16)
• You showed up and engaged in the way that worked for you – that takes strength.
• You tried something even though it felt uncertain – that’s real bravery.
• You navigated that moment with care and consideration – well done.
• You recognised what you needed and asked for it – that’s strong self-advocacy.
• You honoured your pace today – that kind of self-awareness is impressive.
• You noticed your plan didn’t feel right and changed it – great flexible thinking.
• You took feedback and kept going – that shows real maturity.
• You responded in a way that showed how much you’ve grown – have you noticed that, too?
